note to self: learn to not worry

by catarina clemente

«Worry is defined by Webster as “a mental distress or agitation resulting from concern, usually for something impending or anticipated.” It’s an excellent description, and there are two aspects of the definition that bear a close consideration:
1. Worry is a mental (or cognitive) activity.
2. Worry is usually about something that might or might not happen in the future.

Usually, when we worry, we have conversations with ourselves about distressing things we anticipate happening. The key word here is “anticipate.” The worry is about something that hasn’t happened and may or may not happen. Worry is always about something imaginary. Something that doesn’t yet exist. Worry, in fact, is the process of becoming distressed about the nonexistent. Put in that perspective, it seems rather silly and useless

C.S. Clarke, Ph.D., 1990

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