we seriously need to talk about happy things

by catarina clemente

ainda acerca da questão da honestidade na blogsfera.

“Há muita gente que diz que esta avalanche de blogs focados exclusivamente em coisas positivas e bonitas (…) é desonesta, por um lado, porque só mostra uma parte da vida e não o todo, e contraproducente, por outro, porque em vez de inspirar, dá azo a sentimentos de inveja e inadequação. (…) já fui comparada à Anita e muita gente me escreve dizendo que tenho uma vida perfeita porque faço arranjos de flores e bolos. Não será essa uma visão algo limitada? Toda a gente tem acesso às flores que crescem à beira da estrada, bem como a ovos, açúcar e farinha. Eu apenas escolho fazer algo com isso, e tento sempre tornar as coisas que faço o mais apelativas possível. E quando mostro um recanto de minha casa, é óbvio que limpei o pó e arrumei a confusão antes de tirar a fotografia! Mas isso não torna aquilo que mostro uma mentira — bem pelo contrário: partilhar estas coisas convosco faz de mim uma pessoa melhor, mais arrumada, mais rigorosa, mais briosa. O mesmo vale para a imagem de um bebé sorridente e bem vestido… essa imagem não significa que ele nunca chora ou que nunca tem fraldas sujas. O que vos interessa saber que tive grandes dificuldades em dar de mamar? Ou que o meu primeiro Inverno em Inglaterra foi bastante difícil? Ou que as minhas amigas têm roupa mais gira do que eu? Se eu choramingasse, o meu blog seria mais interessante? Quer-me cá parecer que seria uma grande seca…”

constança cabral

“I know that I personally have a blog that shares my daily life, but also distills it. I seek to create a space here that is free from my hangups and insecurities. A space that breeds creativity, and gives me the opportunity to seek out (…) “the magic in the ‘ordinary’ day”. This is important to me. It is crucial in my pursuit of happiness and fulfillment, to avoid lamenting about that which is going wrong, and instead celebrate and reflect on what is going right. My blog is a wonderful tool for me to do so, because when I sit down to write every day I can seize the opportunity to focus in on that which I have to be grateful for, and the things which makes my days feel whole.”

krista lord

“This blog, you see, is one (…) of the ways in which I remind myself of the joys, the beauty and the blessings around me each and every day. Writing here helps me to remember. And it helps me to see and look for those things, people and moments which do bring me joy. Writing about them helps me hold onto those moments. And I find myself wanting and making more space and opportunity for these kinds of moments to enter our days…and my heart. You see how that works? It’s a silly little ridiculous joy-addiction that feeds itself. (…)

I know the consequence to the particular ‘style’ of my writing could lead one to think there is nothing buy joy, and peace, love and knitting needles in my life – if you choose to read/see it that way.

What you see and read here are snapshots. Real, honest, true and sometimes deeply personal snapshots that capture parts of my life and how I see it.  But a snapshot is never complete or ‘whole’ of anything. I’ve never thought of my blog as a journal – this isn’t the locked up diary at my bedside. Of course there are days when I’m just trying to get through. Of course. The thought that anyone could think/say that what I’ve got going on here isn’t real or honest, or that what I write makes them feel inadequate – well, that just about breaks my heart. Because that’s the last thing I’ve ever wanted from this space. My goodness…quite the opposite, my friends. I write for me, but I hit “publish” each day in the hopes that somehow – someway – these little ramblings of mine could inspire you to look for, to follow, to perhaps even create a moment of joy and beauty in your own day.”

amanda blake soule

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